I hope I don't sound negative or self-pitying in this post, I'm just sharing what life has been like the last few weeks.
It has been a big adjustment going from one student at home to three. I'm still doing my best to look over all their work every day and to lay out some kind of schedule each day. This then gives me something to look back at to track my progress and the kids' progress. I'm having a hard time keeping up with it, and all that needs to be taken care of around the house. I had hoped that while I was going through the process this fall of discovering what Samuel really knows, that I could also be looking into additional consultant help and checking out alternative teaching materials. I've been surprised at how much I have to alter the materials I use to teach Samuel. I had thought the layout of the first grade materials I am using would appeal to him. He likes the pictures in the workbooks I have, but he just cannot seem to work on the pages. I don't know if there's just too much on the page, or maybe he has a vision problem. He does much better when I type his lessons in a large font on Writing With Symbols. Anyways, I'm so busy during the day that I keep forgetting to try to call potential consultants. I also haven't put as much into planning a social skills curriculum.. though I'm sure we're doing just fine with what I've put together at the last minute so far.
So far the subjects that appeal to Samuel the most are Religion, spelling, and reading(he likes th reader we use). One of my in-home helpers has noticed that Samuel doesn't react well when we try to count money ( I usually make up worksheets, so he's counting pictures of coins on paper). Now that we're up to the 7th week of doing this I'm trying to notice patterns as well.
Samuel's attention span has been very short and it was particularly bad last week. My strategy is to wait him out when he is not paying attention. So far he has been a bit better this week. Yesterday, however, I had to wait him out for almost an hour before he cooperated with working. This was around the time a favorite TV show of his was on. I made him work in a different area away from the TV. He didn't give in until after the TV show was over. We started working a good half hour before it was due to start! I'm so thankful that our in-home helper was able to keep a good eye on him during this time so I could keep the day going for the other kids! Once Samuel decided he was going to do his work, he finished up in less than fifteen minutes!
I'm finding I have a new appreciation for Samuel's former teacher and his aids. Sometimes it is not easy to get Samuel to communicate what he knows. I understand a bit better now just how much effort can sometimes go into teaching him. Not only that, but so much of his performance depends on his willingness to cooperate.
There's lots more I could say, but I am tired and need to get to sleep. Even though I'm exhausted now, I know this transition phase won't last forever. I still think I have done the right thing by deciding to keep all my sons at home for their education. Now I can understand the advice I've heard from others who have started homeschooling a special needs child; to know that a good part of the first school year might just be getting used to working together and "deschooling."
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It's our first year also. It has been good to tap into G's interests, but I know what you mean about taking so much time. I hope you get lots of rest and may the Lord give you lots of wisdom and strength!!!
Wow..it's been awhile since I visited Blogger...you certainly ARE busy! I wish you all the best with the home school....I don't have the patience (tested and tested again). :) Take care...have a great weekend!
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We just started homeschooling and it is difficult all the way around. It is hard to get a "Study time" and stick with it.
Yes transition is hard, but if you know you are doing the right thing, then its worth it.
And sleep helps!!
I honestly admit homeschooling doesn't interest me. I prefer to let them deal with it. In exchange I send them to speech camps, tutors, extra-curricular (Timber Wolves, library programs) etc to help expand their learning.
Hopefully, things settle down.
S.
Developing a consistent routine is challenging around here too. Having in-home helpers keeps me on track a little better, especially as far as what time we get started in the morning.
Not everyone is interested in homeschooling and I can understand that. However, I have been interested in doing so since the early '90s, before I even met my husband. My interest comes from my experiences in school (to which I can add my husband's experience as well), the current state of education in our country and the world, and in Samuel's case, the problem of determining how much he is really learning and to what extent the school is trying to do anything about it. If I wasn't already teaching at home I would probably fight the battles at his school. Heck, I'd probably be in there volunteering myself to help them out. However, having my children at home for their education ensures that I'm in control of what they are learning. This isn't always easy though. It's a lot to have to shoulder the responsibility of organizing their work and figuring out how to get through the tough times.
You are doing a terrific job. Hang in there-
Proud of you!
If we didn't live in "no man's" land it would be a viable option. But here, the supports are too far away and too frustrating. And since I've now gotten school working the way it should... we're all happy.
I have nothing against it. 2 of my friends do it with their kids, but #1 - they don't have extra issues, and #2 - they live in major centers where there are programs.
I have also discovered I like having them gone a few hours a day. As I posted, knowing ones limitations is important too... I use to feel extremely guilty when I finally admitted I hated doing extra therapy. But finding speech camps etc... helped with that.
Fine line we walk btwn feeling good about what we are doing and parental guilt at not doing enough. At the end of the day.. we just do what we can.
S.
We are finding the transition to homeschooling hard also...but we will get it. That is what everyone tells me. I guess.....
I don't know how you manage, I am imppressed
Hi, I also have an daughter with autism, and still sending her to regular school,although I know they won´t do what I could. But I need to leave her somewhere meanwhile I work, ´cos I´m a single mom. She´s already 15, but soon I¨ll have to be homeschooling her, since no other educational level institutions want to accept her. I found her likeable to learn about computers, and could teach her, instead of that I submit her to a unexperienced teacher at an cyber place, and she´s doing great. I experimented with a guy who did not know nothing about autism, and no idea where to start with her,... but he´s doing great and so my child.
is the 1st time I read your blog and I found it so interesting I'll keep on track with your writing. You´r doing a great job, say hi to Samuel
Hi Esperanza, Thank you for your comment. I wish you and your daughter the best! Things are so different for my family now in 2010 than they were back in 2007 when I wrote this post. I still love working with Samuel and after 3 years of homeschooling him I know him so much better than I did when I first "brought him home". However, I am considering returning him to school to improve the amount of social interaction he is getting.
Your daughter enjoys working on computers? Samuel does as well. I'm amazed at how much better his attention span is on a computer vs. doing work at the table with me.
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